How to BANISH Your To-Do List & Create
You Genuis You!
WUHOO!! I just LOVE sending out these videos to you every week.
You know, if you really do put this stuff into practise, I’m warning you, you will fall absolutely, deeply, head over heels in love with your life. The ups, the downs, everything.
You will start to see that your entire life is a playground of opportunity to put the tools from these videos (my best stuff) into practise.
It’s just a simple fine-tuning of the day to day things you’re already doing, which allows you to think clearly about how you are showing up in the world, and make better decisions.
Todays video is all about clearing the to do list quickly, and, I warn you, you get to watch me, birthing a LIVE creative BABY… keep your eyes peeled… its especially graphic…
Most of you will hate your action challenge this week, I can almost guarantee. There will be an excuse that you will come up with to NOT do it. And for some, its simply not do-able, because its way too scary. If this is you, I urge you, to just start small. Start trusting your brain. Start with a shopping list.
Here is the content from the video.
I'm going to teach you how to fall head over heels, ridiculously in love with you a lot. Today I have a very simple reminder for you. You are complete, just as you are, anytime you feel like you're not complete, or you need something, anything, it's a distraction from your awesomeness, and your own genius. You don't need a man, a woman, a lover, a baby, that job, the new haircut, your clothes. You don't even need a to do list. All of that stuff is a distraction from you, beautiful, and complete and genius, just the way you are. That's true.
A few months ago I was feeling really distracted, like I was always clutching to keep up and feeling like I was left behind, somehow, and I realized I had on my computer this to do list of like 300 items that just kept getting filled up with things that I felt like I needed to just tick off to make me feel better for my business, my personal affairs, and just my personal life. I couldn't work out why I felt so distracted all the time.
Then out of nowhere. I had this gigantic inspiration to just delete it. As soon as I did have the inspiration, this wave of fear came crashing around me. Oh my gosh, what if I forget what's on that list. What if I don't do something, what if I miss out on something, but I don't think I can remember it all on my own. Lies- that big fat never ending to do list was something that just sat there in the back of my mind, and I would come back to probably once a month I would add a few things I would delete the ones that I've done. But funnily enough, I didn't actually think about what I was doing when I was doing it, and ones that I ended up taking off that I'd done were always the most important things on the list. I hope you can see where I'm going with this. I didn't need the list. I don't need it. Neither do you.
I had this weird conviction that my brain was not smart enough to remember what it needed to do, all on its own. Do you have the same problem?
Here the symptoms:
You write lists any kind of list, shopping lists, packing lists, travel list, to do list, list of all my friends, whatever you just write lists.
Secondly, you might freak out anytime someone asks you to do something because you think that you're going to forget something, write it down.
Thirdly, you will send yourself, text messages and emails to remind yourself of things, and finally the most important one, you actually do forget things when you don't write them down.
If you believe that you're going to forget, guess what, you're training your brain to do exactly that. But guess what else. If you simply let it be, and start treating yourself like a genius, high performance machine that you really are, you are also training your brain to be exactly that.
So I went ahead and deleted the whole to do list and I'll be honest, I flipped out, but then I went about my day and did three most important things that I needed to do that day.
…And when I had them done, and I didn't have anything else to do on the list, something amazing happened.
I felt like I was on holiday, I went straight out for a walk on the beach, and I didn't feel guilty, a single bit because that's exactly what I wanted to be doing, and I had nothing else to do. In that moment, I let go of all the rules that I've may have in my head that said I need to tick off all these 300 items on my list before I can feel truly happy and relaxed.
The really cool thing was that in that moment walking along the beach with nothing else to do; some really creative ideas came to me that would never have come to me if I hadn't deleted the to do list.
Let's think about that. Here's why. Think about the times when you've been most inspired in your life when you came up with your very best ideas, you're usually doing one of the following, you're either driving a car, you're on holidays laying on a beach, you're in the shower on the loo, or doing something where you're just kind of moving your body and not really thinking, basically when you're not really doing anything but your conscious mind is distracted. Hello, creative babies are born.
The fact that I just deleted my to do meant there was nothing else to do and I created the space for those ideas to come up. I had a free brain, there was nothing else I could do, except have creative babies.
So this week, your action challenge is to do this, exactly.
Get yourself out a big old piece of paper and write down every single thing that you know you need to do before you can feel good, so that might be fixed that down, draw, or contact that person about that thing, or speak to this person about that or fix this or get that or do this or he'll listen well bla bla bla just write them all down. Every single one.
And then you have one of two choices you can either delete it or burn it, your choice, just to watch the emotions that come up but don't subscribe to them, then go ahead and do the three most important things that you can do that day.
Once you've done that, come back here, leave me a comment below this video and just tell me how you feel. Once you've done it, I can promise you you will freak out, and that's okay.
What happens next is freaking amazing.
Tell me how you feel once you've released the to do chains that bind you. I just want to share with you a comment that I received from someone who did this earlier in the week with me.
"I want to let you know, I'm walking along the beach, and just busted out and some crazy dance moves like a lunatic, because it just feels so freakin happy for no reason whatsoever. I feel like I'm part of something bigger than me and I feel so loved and supported and so grateful and it freaking rocks, thank you a million times over".
Yeah.
Now I hope that inspired you to take the leap, you will grow your wings along the way, I promise, go on I dare you. If you liked this video, please share the love with your friends, share on Facebook, share it on your Twitter comment subscribe to my YouTube channel, or if you know someone who could really help out, do me a favor, or do them a favor and send them an email with a link to this video. If you never want to miss an episode ever again and you want free coaching from me straight to your inbox every week, come to Haleycarr.tv and pop the email address in the box.
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Stay Curious, Stay open. The life you crave is so much closer than you think.
Love, Hayley xx
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