Are you always achieving your goals, or waiting for Permission?
Hola gorgeous! I’m still in Santiago, Chile, (actually, by the time you see this, I'll have landed in Denver) and as you’ll see in the video, its a little windy on the roof!
One of my favourite things about this place, is the mountains that line the city - its something I’ve never quite seen before, and its so beautiful to wake up to - especially because I’m not typically a “city girl”, and I’m staying here for so many months!
Todays video, well, all my videos really, are a snippet of fuelled-conversations that I happen to have with myself and others.
Have you ever felt like you know what you need to be doing, but you’re just not darn-well doing it?
Like you need more…. discipline… energy… focus… drive… [insert buzzword here]?
Check out todays video for another broadcast of dissapointingly simple advice… you’ll laugh… and maybe cry… but then you’ll go and get some shit done…
You’ll learn the one simple distinction to make sure that you always achieve your goals. =)
Here is a quick review
So recently I've been having conversations with my clients and my friends and myself, and it goes a little something like this. I've got all these goals, I've set myself up with a morning routine exercise routine, eating routine, insert, whatever, and I know what I need to be doing but I'm just not doing it. I Need more discipline. But what's wrong with this question?
At first it might look like something is missing like the skill of discipline. You might think yeah that person needs to be more disciplined. But I want you to look a little bit deeper.
There's an innate belief under all of this that is hidden from view. There is nothing missing. The problem with this is the underlying assumption that discipline comes from outside of you the assumption that discipline is something that you can hold and insert, learn or buy, something you must acquire. It's not, and the belief here that goes along with this is that - you can't just choose it in any moment, but you can. And in fact, you must.
At the end of the day you can have every system alarm, and whatever whiz bang application in place to make sure that you get up and you start doing. Alarms, bells and whistles systems, programs, accountability buddies, money in someone's hand, skin in the game, grin on your teeth, wind in your hair….Whatever.
At the end of the day, you just have to f*@king do it, you, nobody else. Yep, that's right. You are alone. But you know what, to me, that's the best news ever. When you can flip this and realize that you have 100% control, guess what, you have 100% control.
Now, allow me to spell it out a little further, just in case you're saying, Yeah, but I'm not doing things, when you have 100% control. You also have control over the things you're not doing 100% of that control to, there is not some voodoo or secret to getting things done. It's just not all sprinkles and teacups.
At some point you have to get your hands dirty, there's no avoiding it, so stop the planning, stop the strategizing and realize that you are the only one who is going to make shit it happen the way you want it to happen.
Nobody's going to do it for you, and trust me you don't want them to. Humans don't set goals for the feeling of looking at someone else's ticked off to do list. The sooner you realize this, the more productive you become, the less you compare yourself to those who are super productive and wonder what key it is that you're missing.
You stop waiting for permission. You start looking at your running shoes and feeling hopeless that once again you didn't exercise, you get up, you put your damn shoes on, and you walk out the friggin front door, because at the end of the day, underneath it all, that is what's necessary.
Disclaimer. I'm not saying do everything yourself and don't leverage your time, that's just as silly.
I am saying to stop thinking that you need to figure your shit out before you can get started and realize that those big goals and you being who you need to be comes down to you, and you can start right now. You don't have to wait. You really have no excuses. And that is all I have to say about that.
Now go and put your shoes on, chop your veggies, pick up the phone, or go and sit in your meditation chair and close your eyes. But before you do, do me a favor, share this video with someone that you love that you really want to succeed. Like it, share it, tweet it, they need to know this. If you'd like today's episode, I want to hear from you and let's get real. What are you actually going to stop doing now to tick off your own list. I really look forward to reading your comments and helping you in any way that I can to remove that layer of bullshit excuses and turn it into some fertilizer for some good stuff. Now, if you never want to miss an episode again and you want to stay up to date with my devious misadventures from around the world, come on over to Haley car.tv and sign up for my free.
I’d love to hear from you, and lets get real. What are you ACTUALLY going to do now, to start getting those projects/aspirations moving? Leave me a comment below and make yourself socially accountable. ;)
Love,
Hayley “I’m alllll alone” Carr xx
(You’ll understand when you see the video)
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