HAYLEY CARR

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Make Promises to Yourself that Stick.

Happy New Year!!!!! I hope wherever you were, whatever you did, you enjoyed every moment - be it solitude, partying, with family, friends, or stuck in traffic.

I have spent the past two days hanging out at Bondi beach with a bunch of very dear friends. I always really enjoy New Years. Even though, and please do remember this, a new year starts every day, there's something about the energy and the vibe when everyone is celebrating a new year all at once. There is an amazing feeling in the air (aside from the hot summer night and sea-salty skin that we have here in Australia), because its like the entire world has given themselves permission to let something go, and start afresh. You can ask 90% of people on the street what their resolutions are for the coming year, and at this time of year, they can tell you what they have in mind.

Imagine if you could do this every day.... no wait.... even better - Imagine that everyone REALISED you can do this every day.

What would happen to the world if we all were able to let go and start afresh every single day? Would you forgive yourself for things you've done that you're not so proud of, even if you did them today? Would it be easier for you to quit smoking, get fit, lose weight, get that promotion, ask out that guy/girl, start that new hobbie, give yourself permission to finally be who you want to be? Of course it would. Would it be easier for you to also forgive others, and let go of their mishaps? Yep... And them to you? You bet...

How about sticking to the things you have in mind for yourself for the entire 12 months?

Todays video is about just that... how to hold true to the promises you make yourself. I warn you, it's obvious. Almost a little too obvious. Sometimes however, we just need a little nudge of a reminder.

May 2013 totally rock your socks off.

from my celebratory new years sparkling heart to yours. Happy New Year.

Go now, and get started.

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I sincerely hope you had an amazing welcome to the New Year, and whatever you did on New Years that you've recovered.

Now for today's video, we're doing a specialized version on what makes New Year's resolutions really stick, and the power of double intentions. What does that mea? Well, for a lot of people, we set really big resolutions for the media. 2013 is going to be the year of, whatever. And when we do set those resolutions we have massive intentions of keeping them. However, unfortunately, if our environment doesn't support the resolution, it can be really easy to slip fast. And unfortunately for a lot of people, once they slip they think, oh, it's all over. So firstly, I want to say, if you do slip, no problem, get back on the horse again and new year starts, every day, it doesn't have to start on the first of January. But then secondly I want to ask you some really important questions.

  1. What does it really mean to achieve this, and

  2. What would be the negative consequences of achieving this.

So when you ask yourself these questions, and by the way when you answer them, I want you to be a massive drama queen, don't worry about how silly or overtop or stupid they sound, all of the answers that you come up to for these questions are blocks, negative energetic blocks that will actually stop you from achieving your goals so it's really important to uncover what they are early.

So for example, you might have an intention in 2013 to quit smoking, and you've attempted to quit before and haven't been able to do it. So if I asked you what does it really mean for you to quit smoking, you might say something like, well, it really means that I'll just be frustrated all the time and it will really affect my work, or I'll be super stressed out and it will affect my relationship, or I might get fat.

Whatever the answer is, however, silly just write it down and then ask yourself, what are the negative consequences of this. So what are the negative consequences of quitting smoking. Well it means I'll probably have to be healthy, or it means I'll might get tired or I’ll feel like I don't have time to quit smoking, just whatever they are, write them all down.

By the end, you'll have a big list of potential threats that stop you from attaining your New Year's resolution. Now, as you go back through the list, I want you to go to each and every one and for each one, you're going to ask yourself,..

What is the best way that I can support myself to make sure this doesn't happen, and if it does, what will I do, what's my plan B.

So are you might for example have to set yourself a curfew to go to bed so that you go to sleep on time and you have the energy during the day, or perhaps you have to start meditating as well to manage your stress levels. So if your stress levels increased while you're quitting smoking, you're able to deal with it.

It's a little effort now for a massive reward later. And if you do it properly, it will feel like a lot less effort to keep your New Year's resolution. I mean seriously, what's really more comfortable for you. Is it the satisfaction of having a cigarette now because of the craving or the security in knowing that you'll never smoke again. What's really more satisfying, satisfying a craving in an immediate moment or changing your life for the better.

So now it's action time. Go and get yourself a piece of paper and write down what that new year's resolution was in the wee hours of yesterday morning, And then go ahead and ask yourself, what does it really mean for me to have this, and what are the negative consequences. And then for all the answers that you come up with, ask yourself, How can I best support myself, so this doesn't happen, and if it does, what's my plan B. If you know someone who would benefit from this video, do them a favor and send them an email with a link to it. If you like it, come on over to my channel subscribe.

Transcribed by https://otter.ai

Stay Curious, Stay open. The life you crave is so much closer than you think.

Love

Hayley xx

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