Clarity doesn't come from thinking harder - it comes from this. - Ep 90
How to Find Clarity and Make Aligned Decisions
(Without Overthinking It)
Episode 90 - Available 23 may 2025
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If you’ve ever found yourself spiralling in indecision, writing pros and cons lists, whiteboarding outcomes, journaling endlessly, and still feeling stuck, you’re not alone. Most people assume that if they just think hard enough, the answer will come.
But clarity isn’t something you force through logic. It’s something you access through space, stillness, and your nervous system.
This episode of Superfreak is about what actually works when you’re stuck. Not another five-step plan, but a nervous system-first approach to getting clear from the inside out.
Clarity doesn’t come from thinking. It comes after you stop.
When you're in a period of transition or holding a big decision, it's natural to want to solve it with your mind. You want to feel safe. You want to avoid making the wrong choice.
But this often turns into looping thoughts, overanalysis, and more confusion.
True clarity comes in the moment after.
After the cry. After the walk. After the surf. After the breath.
When the nervous system settles, the dust clears, and the knowing arrives.
Clarity isn’t a product of mental strain. It’s a result of safety, regulation, and reconnection to yourself.
The myth of clarity through strategy
When you build a decision from a place of urgency, fear, or mental chaos, even the best strategy can feel fragile. It might look polished, but it won’t feel solid.
Strategy is useful, but only when it comes after you’ve accessed your truth. Otherwise, it’s built on a shaky foundation.
You don’t need to ditch your thinking mind. But you do need to stop giving it the full responsibility for something it was never meant to lead.
Four practices to access clarity
These are the practices I return to again and again when I feel disconnected or unsure of my next step.
1. Go embodied before you go strategic
Movement helps metabolise what the mind can’t.
Walk, dance, cry, stretch. Whatever brings you back into your body.
A strategy built from clarity will always outperform one built from fear.
2. Ask better questions
Not “What should I do?” but:
What would I do if I trusted myself completely?
If clarity were already here, what would I notice?
What does my future self already know about this?
What am I afraid might happen if I choose what I really want?
These questions open a door to your inner guidance, not just your logic.
3. Create stillness after movement
Stillness without regulation just amplifies the noise.
But stillness after movement invites clarity to land.
Sketching, meditating, breathing. It all works when your system is ready to receive.
4. Go live your life
Often, clarity arrives not when you’re trying to figure it out, but when you’re doing something else entirely.
Driving. Showering. Cooking. Being human.
Give yourself permission to step away, and trust that clarity will follow.
Strategy as support, not saviour
When you lead with strategy, clarity can’t find space to land.
But when you ground yourself first, emotionally, physically and energetically, strategy becomes a tool that strengthens your path.
Strategy isn’t the enemy. It’s just not the starting point.
Let it support your knowing. Not replace it.
You’re not behind. You’re not broken.
If you’re in a season of fogginess, uncertainty, or deep questioning, this is your reminder that there’s nothing wrong with you.
You don’t need to push harder. You don’t need more data.
You need space, stillness, movement, and self-trust.
Clarity is already within you. This episode is a reminder of how to reconnect to it.
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