Episode 47 - When you have Imposter Syndrome...

 

…empowerment won't cut the mustard. Here's what you need.

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Hayley sitting behind reflective glass

Ever struggled with imposter syndrome? 

You know, that feeling like you somehow snuck through the door and made it in without anyone noticing, but you’re really not supposed to be there?

Or like, you can't ask for what you want, because… you’re going to make too much of a fuss and you’re not ready, and you don’t deserve it yet?

Me too. 

I have a lot of conversations with my high performing clients about imposter syndrome and often these clients don’t even identify as being high performers because of this issue. So today I’m tackling the topic of imposter syndrome and, as usual, I’m doing it in a way that you might not expect. 

One way to look at imposter syndrome is that you just have an outdated idea of who you are. You’re still thinking about yourself as the way you were before and you need to update that picture of yourself.

Shifting this mindset is important but there’s more to it than that. 

There’s so much talk in the online space about empowerment these days. But if you feel like an imposter when you’re with an intimidating person, you’re faced with a challenging circumstance or a confronting conversation, empowerment in itself won’t do anything. What you need is skill. 

Empowerment can go home.

Yelling motivational quotes might get me off the diving board, but after that, when I’m free-falling into an abyss…

…and scared my legs are going to break, and I have no idea how to brace myself for impact? Yeah, a meme isn’t so helpful.

In this episode, I talk about what happens when people try to replace skill with empowerment and why we need to focus on developing empowerment through finessing a skill.

Empowerment without skill is just hope,…

and hope in itself won’t get you anywhere when you’re under pressure. 

True power is born out of skill plus empowerment. If you can combine the understanding that you might have an outdated idea of yourself with the willingness to be constantly upskilling, you will have leverage when it comes to high stake circumstances and rise to the top effortlessly. That’s how genuine empowerment is fortified.