How to Change Someone’s Mind
There are a lot of people thinking a lot of different things at the moment.
It takes only a glimpse of social media to discover the many polarising opinions and hot topics causing a divide amongst the human race.
So what do you do to get someone else to see your side? How can you convince them that you’re right and they’re wrong? Let’s be honest, we all think we’re right.
But perhaps the answer is not so much about convincing the other person of your truth, but about evolving beyond arguments and debate to a space of safety and mutual understanding.
Our beliefs and opinions are not fickle things. They are formed above a large foundation of culture, personal experiences and the people around us. Do we really think that an argument over the dinner table is going to shift the fundamental beliefs of another human? In order for someone to change their mind, they have to question everything they have believed to be true up until that moment. They must feel safe to be vulnerable and have the courage to admit that they are wrong and nobody wants to admit that, especially when they feel threatened.
In this episode, I’m going to challenge you yet again to expand your thinking. Seek first to understand and instead of focusing on changing another person, simply be a shining example of what you believe.
When you create an atmosphere around you that enables others to feel safe, valued and understood, it might surprise you how little you care about changing their mind anymore.
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Stay Curious, Stay open. The life you crave is so much closer than you think.
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Hayley xx
PS - I think Deepak Chopra and I are on the same page too.😉
A New York Time article in Oct 2020 is linked below
In this New York Times article (October 2020) Deepak Chopra has 9 steps for having a disagreement like an adult or just disagreeing better.
‘Even if you can’t change another person’s mind or behavior, it will help you remain calm and end the conflict.’
The steps incorporate listening, learning, being aware, coming from a place of love and understanding, being prepared to forgive and finally have a laugh together.
Step 6 is precious:
‘When confronted, stop, take a deep breath, smile and then make a choice.’
“Ask yourself, ‘Am I going to be nasty? Am I going to be reactive? Or is there a creative solution to this?’” Mr. Chopra said.
How to Have a Disagreement Like an Adult, - According to Deepak Chopra